We are all connected through a web, I don’t mean the internet web. The connections we create through interactions, how the vibrations we send out affect others. All I can hope is that the vibes I have sent out are positive and shed love and light into the lives I have touched.
The past few days have been rough, not just for me but many of my loved ones. My family consists of my three children and the eleven grandchildren they have created. My children have partners, and with each of those partners comes more family. Some of those people have complex back stories, make poor decisions and repeat the drama and trauma that made them who they are now.
When my children were growing up, I was working in the social work field. I realized pretty early that my work spilled over into my family. When my son was about 5, he made up a guest bed for a little girl at my program. He convinced his sisters to allow him to borrow a few dolls and girl toys to put in the guest room. He then, oh so proudly, told me the room was for “T”. She was a good girl, but her mom did not take care of her right. IF she came to live with us, she would be alright. The program I worked for was trying to get the police to take a report on suspected abuse, but no agency would take the report – but a 5 year old figured it out.
My children knew what their mother did for a living, and they learned to be loving and nonjudgemental of people. I stopped doing social work after 15 years. It was taking a toll on me and then spilling over to my family.
My children were blessed with loving hearts and thus have brought us more family. We accept these people with their lumps and bumps, they have a past that may not be the best chapter of their lives. Some are better at not rewriting the history, some are stuck in a loop, only they have created more people to involve in the loop.
My heart hurts tonight. The family drama is overwhelming. Some would say they are not really my family, but my in laws family. There is more than just biology to life, the links we have with others is more than a blood relation.
My wish for all, that you can share love, kindness and peace. Own your best chapters in life and the not so great chapters, they both made you who you are today. Learn from the past, yours and those around you, sometimes the lesson is not how to. If you can identify what went wrong, you can figure out what not to do and inversely, what to do.
Love one another, be kind, and find the happiness in the moment.
Snowmoon Adventures 